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The Moon, the stars, the universe...EVERYTHING

  • 3 days ago
  • 5 comments

Baby shower time.

My sister-in-law will soon be subjected to a baby shower planned by me and my sister.  Because there is an unwritten rule, there will be the required goofy games and pointless prizes at this little shindig.

I've talked my sister into a "star" theme.  As in...those heavenly bodies...or maybe as in movie stars.

Probably a combination of both.

The main reason for choosing this (and, please...remember I am required to be hokey or cheesy.  It's a law.  And I don't break laws...well, expect, maybe, for the speed limit....) is the fact that we can do the following:

Hand out party favors that have a little tag reading "Thanks for coming to the sneak preview of our little star".

Give out movie gift certificates as prizes - Useful and fun.  Much better than, say, a baby bottle filled with Starburst candies (although, come to think of it...that would be pretty darn useful as well.  Yum!  Starbursts!).

The decorations will be a heavenly theme - stars, moon, night sky, and so on.

I plan to make a mix of music to have playing in the background, and I'd like for the songs I choose to go along with this theme.

Any suggestions?

So far, I've checked out my small collection of jazzy music (I think it's jazz.  What would Sinatra and Dean Martin be?)

Anyway, here's my short list:

Stardust (Nat King Cole), Moonlight Serenade (Glenn Miller Orchestra), Fly Me to the Moon (Tony Bennett), It's Only a Paper Moon (Nat King Cole), Blue Moon (Elvis Presley), Allegheny Moon (Anne Murray).

I tend to prefer this type of music, so my collection is not wide in its variety.  I don't want anything too loud or jarring. 

Who is an audiophile?  Help me out here!

 

 

5 comments Tags: music, baby shower, star theme

QotD: Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep (Kitty Cat Combo)

  • 3 days ago
  • 3 comments

What is one thing you MUST do before you go to bed at night?

It isn't really just one thing, but a series of steps in a Very Necessary Process.

Step 1 - Find the Marmie Cat.

Step 2 - Catch the Marmie Cat.

Step 3 - Tote the Marmie Cat to "Cat Central" (a little sun room we have that has all of the cat perches - rarely used - the cat food and water dishes, and a shelf with miscellaneous cat items (brushes, container of cat nip, cat treats, etc).

Step 4 - Pry open Marmie Cat's Mouth, pop in evening dose of Methimazole.  (A medication used to control his overactive thyroid)

Step 5 - Persuade Marmie Cat to swallow.

Step 5.5 - Pry open Marmie Cat's Mouth, check to see if pill has slid down his gullet.

Step 6 - Repeat Step 5 as necessary.

Step 7 - Release Marmie Cat.

Step 8 - Grovel to Marmie Cat by offering cat treats.

Step 9 - Fill food dish with fresh kibble.

Step 10 - Fill water dish with fresh water.

The Marmie Cat would be delighted to skip over steps one through seven, but we can't do that and expect him to maintain his health.

With the fresh food and water, however, we (humans) are permitted to sleep peacefully through the night*.

 

 

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*Night officially ends at 12:00 am.  Anytime after that Marmie Cat feels that it is his right to wake us and haul our lazy a**es out of bed.

3 comments Tags: qotd, nighttime ritual

More Updates

  • 6 days ago
  • 7 comments

Hello again.  My mom called minutes after I posted my last message.

She had some comforting things to say.

First, although they are keeping him sedated, Grandpa was able to follow directions that the nurses gave him (squeezing a hand, wiggling a toe). That's a good sign.

He is scheduled to go in for surgery tomorrow morning.  Grandpa will be having 3 bypasses during the surgery.

His surgeon feels that he has a 95% chance of survival.  She also thinks that he is extremely lucky.  The type of heart attack he had is one that has a low survival rate.  Part of what helped Grandpa is that he was out among people when it happened and someone started CPR right away.  Add to this, the cops and ambulance arrived within minutes of someone calling 911.  As I mentioned before, he was airlifted to a Milwaukee hospital that has a really good reputation for working with cardio-vascular health. 

Of course, there are always risks associated with surgery, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed.  It helps to hear that the surgeon said that Grandpa is in better shape than some fifty year olds she knows. 

 So, hopeful news.  Thank you again for the healthy, positive thoughts.

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Grandpa Update

  • 6 days ago
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Mom and my step-dad made it home from their vacation in Michigan (where they were when they got the call about Grandpa's heart attack) safely.  They went directly to the hospital and were there by about 4am this morning.

Grandpa is on a ventilator, and therefore cannot talk.  However, he did wake up and recognize them, which I know really relieved my mom.

The doctors are going to do a couple of tests today and hope to get him in for surgery tomorrow.  Mom should have an update for me later today sometime.  I'll let you know what I hear from her.

Thank you so much for the good thoughts and vibes you're sending his way.  You are all great, great people.

 

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The Power of Peeps

  • 6 days ago
  • 4 comments

I am not trying to be flippant, honestly. 

I am simply asking for, if you have a moment, to send good thoughts towards Wisconsin. 

My Mom just called.  My grandpa (her dad) had a heart attack tonight.  They flew him from our dinky little hospital to one in Milwaukee.  That's all she knows so far.

Send out positive thoughts to my grandpa, please.  He's a big, tough guy (always has been), and I don't...can't...believe that he isn't going to pull through this.

That being said, there's no way I'm going to risk his life by not asking.

Thank you.  From the bottom of my heart.

Rose

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More May

  • Apr 29, 2008
  • 1 comment

While I do have a number of days I am interested in celebrating, scroll down and check out May 30!

 

And here are some of the weekly observances:

National Fairy Godmother Week (1-7)

Be Kind to Animals Week (1-7)

Flexible Work Arrangement Week (4-10)

Goodwill Industries Week (4-10)

National Anxiety and Depression Awareness Week (4-10)

National Family Week (4-10)

National Hug Holiday Week (4-10)

National Pet Week (4-10)

Reading is Fun Week (4-10)

Astronomy Week (5-10)

National Wildflower Week (5-11)

Update Your References Week (5-9)

National Nurses Week (6-12)

Teacher Appreciation Week (6-12)

National Police Week (11-17)

National Stuttering Awareness Week (12-18)

Bread Week (18-24)

National Dog Bite Prevention Week (18-24)

National Backyard Games Week (19-26) (Kick the Can, anyone?)

Work At Home Moms Week (19-25)

Old Time Piano Playing Week (23-26)

Cover the Uninsured Week (24-31)

 

May, Day-by-Day

 

5/1

World Asthma Day

Beltaine

Frequent Flyer Day

Lei Day

May Day

Mother Goose Day

National Day of Reason

School Principal’s Day

Stepmother’s Day

 

5/2

No Pants Day

Roberts Rule of Order Day

 

3

Cartoonists  Day

Dandelion Day

Kentucky Derby

Lumpy Rug Day

National Anxiety Disorders Screening Day

National Day to Prevent Teenage Pregnancy Day

National Homebrew Day

 

4

Respect for Chickens Day

 

5

Childhood Stroke Awareness Day

Cinco de Mayo

Melanoma Day

 

6

Childhood Depression Awareness Day

National Teacher Day

No Diet Day

No Homework Day

Nurses Day

 

7

Great American Grump Out

National School Nurse Day

 

8

No Socks Day

V.E. Day

 

9

Child Care Provider Day

 

10

Astronomy Day

Birthmother’s Day

Lupus Day

Windmill Day

 

11

Mother’s Day

 

12

Limerick Day

Native American Rights Day

National Nutty Fudge Day

 

13

National Third Shift/Night Shift Workers Day

 

14

Receptionists Day

Root Canal Appreciation Day

 

15

National Chocolate Chip Day

Nylon Stockings Day

 

16

National Bike to Work Day

National Pizza Party Day

National Sea Monkey Day

 

17

Armed Forces Day

Babysitter Safety Day

 

18

Celebrate Your Elected Officials Day

International Museums Day

Visit Your Relatives Day

Whistler’s Mother Day

 

20

Eliza Doolittle Day

Weights and Measures Day

 

21

National Employee Health and Fitness Day

I Need a Patch for That Day

National Waitstaff Day

 

22

National Maritime Day

 

23

National Taffy Day

 

24

Brother’s Day

International Jazz Day

Julia Pierpoint Day

Tiara Day

 

25

National Missing Children’s Day

National Tap Dance Day

Neighbor Day

Indianapolis 500

Nerd/Geek Pride Day

Towel Day

 

26

Memorial Day

 

28

National Senior Health and Fitness Day

Slugs Return from Capistrano Day

 

30

Hug Your Cat Day

Loomis Day

 

31

World No-Tobacco Day

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MAYDAY! MAYDAY!

  • Apr 29, 2008
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And all the days after. 

 

The Month of May is:

 

ALS Awareness Month (Lou Gehrig’s Disease)

Asian Pacific American Heritage Month

Awareness of Medical Orphans Month (What is a medical orphan?)

Better Hearing and Speech Month

Borderline Personality Disorder Month

Brain Tumor Awareness Month

Family Wellness Month

Fibromyalgia Education and Awareness Month

Get Caught Reading Month

Gifts from the Garden Month

Go Fetch!  Food Drive for Homeless Animals Month

Haitian Heritage Month

Heal the Children Month

Healthy Vision Month

Huntington’s Disease Awareness Month

International Audit Month (EWWWWW!!!!)

International Victorious Woman Month

Jewish-American Heritage Month

Latino Books Month

Motorcycle Safety Month

National Allergy/Asthma Awareness Month

National Arthritis Month

National Barbeque Month (YUM!)

National Bike Month

National Correct Posture Month (I'm going to work on mine!)

National Egg Month

National Foster Care Month

National Good Car Keeping Month

National Hamburger Month (Sign me up!)

National Hepatitis Awareness Month

World Lyme Disease Awareness Month

National Medication Month

National Military Appreciation Month

National Moving Month

National Older Americans Month

National Osteoporosis Prevention Month (Drink your milk!)

National Photo Month

National Physical Fitness and Sports Month

National Salad Month (Do I gotta?)

National Salsa Month (Pass the chips)

National Smile Month

National Stroke Awareness Month

National Revise Your Work Schedule Month

National Vinegar Month (Why?)

Navajo Code Talkers Month (Cool)

Personal History Month

Sweet Vidalia Onions Month (YES!!!)

Teen Self-Esteem Month

Tennis Month

Tay-Sachs and Canavan Diseases Month

Ultra-Violent Awareness Month (Can't see it, but it's there!)

Women’s Health Care Month

Young Achievers Month

National Family Month

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Envy, Gluttony, Sloth

  • Apr 28, 2008
  • 5 comments

I'm almost halfway through the seven deadly sins!  And I just started working on this project 90 minutes ago!

By rights, I should be calling a friend or family member to unload on them.  I might be just a little too proud to admit that I need a shoulder to cry on.

Oh!  Oh!  Pride!  That just leaves wrath, greed, and lust.

I might be able to work my way up to wrath.  Greed and lust...hmmm.  That'll take some thinking.

In all seriousness, though, I'm going to unload on this poor, poor blog.  Beware all you who may look here.

The husband and I got pregnant in February.

I miscarried seven weeks later.

It's not a big deal.  In fact, I thought I was okay with the whole thing.  After about six hours of misery, of the emotional type, both the husband and I were able to look at the situation, shrug our shoulders and say "Well, better luck next time."  We're young and had barely been trying to get pregnant.  It's not as though we'd been working really hard at the whole thing, nor was a I pregnant for very long.  It wasn't a true pregnancy (according to the rule of thumb my doctor mentioned today) in the sense that there was never a fetal heartbeat.  No heartbeat=No pregnancy.

So there you are.

I had a call from my (younger) cousin today.  She and her husband are pregnant - 8 weeks along, had the first ultrasound with pictures, fetal heartbeat of 171 beats per minute, could see things like the umbilical cord, arm buds, head, etc.

I am happy for her and her husband.  I really am.  I know that they started trying about the same time that we did, and I know that everyone in the family is ecstatic about the baby.  And why not?  Babies are wonderful things.

Do you know how often I have to stop and remind myself that motherhood is not a competition?

I'm so bound up with envy for her situation, and I feel awful about it.  I was okay with the fact that I miscarried, but dammit, I wanted to be next!  There is a big part of me that feels like when (if) the husband and I do manage to procreate that the whole thing will be no big deal for my family.  Something like "Oh, you're going to have a baby.  So what?  Your brother did that (well, his wife did, anyway), and then your cousin did.  That's not so special."

Where the hell is this ugly competitiveness coming from?  I won't be the first nor the last woman to have a child, and there was never a thought in my mind - as we talked about choosing to become parents - of "I'll become a mother and that I'll really BE someone."  That's ridiculous.  I can see how ridiculous that is.  And yet...

Envy.

And here I sit, sobbing over her good fortune - and feeling like a complete heel. 

I've consumed more cookies than are good for me (my stomach says so...gurgle, gurgle): Gluttony.

I've decided that I don't want to workout tonight because I'm just too miserable: Sloth.

I feel incredibly low, but I won't call any of my friends and family because, dammit, I've repeated over and over that not being pregnant isn't a big deal.  I'm okay with it.  I am okay with it.  These things happen, and I am okay.  To call any of them up now and whine about it...well, it just isn't going to happen.

Pride.

Simultaneously, the worst and the best thing was the choice I made to not tell my cousin, as she was bubbling over with joy, that I miscarried three weeks ago.

It's the worst because I do want her to be aware...part of me wants to be able to talk about what little pregnancy I had (very little, but there were some symptoms), another part of me wants her to...not to edit herself because of my experience (which isn't any big deal, right?), but just to be aware that I might feel envious, even as I wish her joy.

It's the best, because at least I didn't give into my selfish tendancies and rain on her parade.  Now that would have been almost unforgiveable. 

God, I wish my husband were home.

I wish that stupid little imp in my head would stop joking about how this is going to make me a better, more patient person.  I really don't think that that's possible.  It's pretty obvious that I'm a heartless, selfish beast who only thinks of myself...how things affect me. 

No, no...that's the depression talking.  I'm a decent person who happens to be human, and therefore flawed. 

Dammit.  I hate the whole world and wish I could throw breakable items against the wall.  I think the smash would be most satisfying.

 

5 comments Tags: pride, envy, seven deadly sins, sloth, gluttony

Really? I mean...really?

  • Mar 28, 2008
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I am not trained in any branch of social work or mental health services.  I do, however, work for a mental health organization, and this organization specifically serves populations that have government health care (MediCal, specifically). 

Not having any training in social work and etc, it is very easy for me to judge people quite harshly (rather than leaping to a completely different conclusion like - "Maybe he/she suffers from Tourrettes").

I splurged today on a caffeinated beverage.  As I was in the convenience store around the corner from where I work, a woman came in and was muttering quite loudly "I'm gonna get those Jewish pigs at (name of my company).  I'm gonna get those Jewish pigs at (name of my company)."  Pause.  "I'm gonna get those Jewish pigs...."  And so on.

Now, I'm assuming that she is a client of ours.  That leads to a further assumption that she is suffering from some kind of mental illness - I suppose it can be anything from anger issues to schizophrenia.  What do I know?

What I do know is that I had a very visceral reaction to her comments.  Even knowing that she is probably suffering from some kind of mental illness, I couldn't help thinking "What a horrible woman.  What an ignorant, ugly-minded woman." 

It's odd, I even felt a great deal of pity (which I'm sure would not be appreciated) for everyone with Jewish roots - whether they're practicing or not. 

I know enough of European and American history to know that Jews have been popular scapegoats for centuries.  (Of course, they are not the only population that has been used in this manner...but that's not my point right now.)

I am living in the United States in the year 2008.  I know that, being human, we are all far from perfect.  We also all have our own opinions.  There are many people that I don't agree with.  There are many politicians and people in the public eye towards whom I enjoy a healthy dislike.  I am certainly prejudiced against these people. 

It's one thing to dislike an individual.

It's a completely different thing to hate an entire group.  And that prejudice is especially horrible when that hate is based on a tradition of fear and ignorance rather than actual knowledge of what the individuals who make up that group are like.

<climbs down off of soapbox>

 

Post a comment Tags: prejudice, work blues

April, Day by Day

  • Mar 27, 2008
  • 4 comments

4/1 - April Fool's Day, National Fun at Work Day, Sorry Charlie Day, and St. Stupid Day

4/2 - Kick Butts Day, National Day of Hope

4/3 - Pony Express Day, Tweed Day

4/4 - Victims of Violence Holy Day, World Rat Day

4/5 - National Love Our Children Day, Tangible Karma Day

4/6 - Drowsy Driver Awareness Day, Teflon Day

4/7 - No Housework Day, World Health Day

4/10 - ASPCA Day, National D.A.R.E. Day, National Sibling Day

4/11 - Barbershop Quartet Day, International "Louie Louie" Day

4/11 - 4/13 - Trivia Days

4/12 - Licorice Day, Walk on Your Wild Side Day,

4/13 - International Plant Appreciation Day, Thomas Jefferson Day

4/14 - Children with Alopecia Day (What?)

4/15 - Income Tax Day (Sigh)

4/16 - International Stress Awareness Day, National Wear Your Pajamas to Work Day

4/17 - Blah! Blah! Blah! Day, Ellis Island Family History Day, Ford Mustang Day, High Five Day

4/18 - 4/20 - Comic Book Days, YoYo Days

4/19 - Husband Appreciation Day, Oklahoma City Bombing Commemoration Day, Auctioneers Day, National Hanging Out Day, First Day of Passover, World Cow Chip Day

4/21 - Kindergarten Day, National Chocolate-Covered Cashews Day

4/22 - Chemists Celebrate the Earth Day, Earth Day, National Jelly Bean Day

4/25 - Arbor Day, Red Hat Society Day

4/26 - Richter Scale Day, World Tai chi & Qigong Day

4/27 - Rural Life Sunday/Soil Stewardship Sunday

4/28 - Cubicle Day, Bulldogs are Beautiful Day,

4/29 - National Hairball Awareness Day, Sense of Smell Day, National Teach Your Children to Save Day, National Dance Day

4/30 - Beltane, Hairstylists Appreciation Day, Walpurgis Night

 

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